Everyone knows that having fun in the bedroom is a two-way street. Knowing how to please your partner, while also being able to communicate what gets you going, is the best way to ensure you have fantastic, mutually fulfilling, and–dare we say it–mind-blowing sex.
You may think your sex life is great, but
deep down, do you ever ask if there is anything else you could be doing to make it even better?
10 really hot things a guy can do in bed
Well guys, you’re in luck! We’ve gathered some top-notch intel from women who are happy to share their most intimate desires, as well as techniques, subtle little tricks, and red-hot fantasies to make sure you score bonus points in the sack. Read on to find out the best tips to get your woman seriously satisfied
#1. Ask us what we like. Communication is key in all areas of a successful relationship, and this includes the bedroom. If you don’t ask, how will you ever know? Sometimes, it’s hard to get your partner to talk openly about what really turns them on, so why not start off slow? Try things out and ask them if they like it, or give them options like, “Is it better like this?” or “Shall I speed up/slow down?”
Soon, you’ll know exactly what they like and where. No two ladies are the same, so just because your ex liked something done in a certain way doesn’t mean a new partner will. The sooner you find out, the sooner you can know exactly what turns her on, and she may even return the favor!
#2. Tell us what to do. No one likes a bossy boots, but sometimes, a little direction can be really sexy. Whisper what you want to do to us, and ask us what we’re going to do to you. Take a little control. Obviously, barking orders at us military-style probably isn’t the best technique, but turning us, moving our hands, and the occasional slam up against a wall never go amiss!
#3. Don’t forget the sensitive spots. And no, we are not just talking about the obvious ones! There are plenty of erogenous zones on a woman’s body, and some might not be quite where you’d expect. Whispering, licking, and nibbling our ears, for example, are bound to get us excited. Nuzzling the neck, stroking the back of the thighs, and kissing your way down the stomach increases intensity, and is all part of foreplay that will really get us in the mood.
#4 Build it up. There is nothing more frustrating *in a hot way* than a guy who knows how to tease. While having a quickie can be fun, slowly building up to the main feature can be incredibly exciting and a huge turn-on. Kiss us softly, gently stoke our bodies, and don’t undress us for ages. Wait until we are begging for it… and then wait a bit more. This will build up desire and make the grand finale even more explosive.
#5. Mix it up. Sex can be hot in loads of different ways, and the key to having a great sex life is to try different things. Sometimes, fantastic sex consists of gentle kisses and cuddles, being warm in bed, and partaking in slow, eye-gazing lovemaking. Sometimes, it’s all about ripping each other’s clothes off and doing it fast and hard on the living room floor, because you couldn’t quite make it to the bedroom.
Fast or slow, rough or gentle, missionary, or upside-down reverse wheelbarrow *whatever that is*, sex is all about experimenting and having fun.
#6. Compliment us. Some guys might think that compliments should only be reserved for when we are trying on a new dress and asking, “Does my bum look big in this?” but you would actually be surprised by how far a well-timed compliment can get you when you are getting down to business.
Women want to feel beautiful and desired. You don’t have to come out with anything too gushing *this may kill the mood*, but telling us how good we look, how great we feel, and how much you enjoy what we are doing are great ways to make us feel fantastic, and will make us want to do even more. Everyone’s a winner!
#7. Let us take control. Sometimes, a girl just wants to be in control. Letting us take the reins once in a while shows that you are comfortable with yourself in the bedroom and are not afraid to let your lady take the lead. Sometimes, there is nothing sexier for us girls than feeling like the strong, powerful woman who wants to dominate in the bedroom. Being assertive and telling your partner what to do can be incredibly hot for both parties, and can lead to some truly explosive sex.
#8.Let’s hear it for the boys! Ever slept with someone who stays as quiet as a church mouse the whole time? If so, you know that noise during sex is hot. There is something really arousing about hearing your partner moaning, breathing heavily, groaning, or growling.
It’s how we know you are having a good time. And the animalistic element not only gets us pretty damn hot, but makes us feel like major sex goddesses, giving you some intense pleasure—and we LOVE that feeling.
#9. Make sure we both get over the finish line. Now, while this may seem pretty obvious, it is surprising how often a guy can forget this little detail once he has gotten the good stuff. Don’t put all that hard work to waste, and if you aren’t sure whether we have gotten there, just ask!
It often takes a girl a little longer to have an orgasm, and there is no better feeling than when you can both flop back after sex, knowing it has been truly fantastic for everyone involved! [Prone to finishing first?
#10. Don’t be afraid of a little helping hand. Whatever you are into, in these wonderful modern times, there is usually something that can give sex an extra level of intensity. Using toys in the bedroom doesn’t mean you are failing at pleasuring the ladies yourself; instead, it shows you are adventurous and comfortable enough to give anything a go.
Props, costumes, lubes, and toys can all add to the fun and pleasure of your sex life. We aren’t suggesting that you burst out of the closet, dressed in leather, armed with a whip, a tub of lube, and a massive dildo every time you feel like getting jiggy with it, but experimenting with different sexual aids and learning what works for you as a couple is a great way to enhance your sex life. And because it involves trust, intimacy, and openness, it will bring you two closer together.
Whether it’s better communication, investing in some sex toys, being more sensitive, or simply ripping our clothes off, these top ten tips are sure to add some fire to your sex life. The hottest thing a guy can do isn’t always about using the craziest moves, or the length of time he can last—it’s all about finding out what works for you and your partner, and exploring that together.
Credit: Bethany Cadman.